No, I'm one of the moderators, and one of the most active members on there. The owners/operators (administrators) are also active FreeBSD developers, and usually too busy to participate on a daily basis.
I do not recognize your perception of the FreeBSD Forums, which are, in my view, not fundamentally different form e.g DaemonForums or its predecessor BSDForums. And I don't think the FreeBSD Forums are essentially more or less 'stern' or 'RTFM-y' than DaemonForums.
Most of the mods/admins here are active members on FreeBSD Forums as well, and I have a fine and friendly relationship with all of them. If that wasn't mutual, I would have heard it by now (esp. the Dutch guys, who are usually not mincing their words
).
So specifically, what is the problem?